Late last night Mr. Maura and I finally got the last of my office furniture (bar a floor lamp) assembled and wanted to put it in it’s final positions so I could actually USE the office. A shove of (very large and very heavy) items into the places I thought I wanted them showed me something very important.
It Would Not Work.
I had been working with an idea of where I wanted the furniture but because I cannot visualize anything — I have no visual memory — I could not imagine what would happen when they were in those places. The furniture was bigger than I expected and the stupid closet kept mucking up my plans.
Mr. Maura started proposing other options – some of which did away with my reading nook (unacceptable). And here we come across the really annoying part of my strange brain wiring. He would explain where he wanted to move something and I could NOT tell him whether I like it or not. I can only really deal with layout if I can interact with it. He tried to get me to take some graph paper and graph it out and I had to explain (again) that it would not help. The drawing on the paper would not translate to anything I could say I liked or did not. That transition just never happens for me.
It wasn’t helped by the fact that Mr. Maura is the king of “or you could…”. He wants to make sure ALL options are considered and I hear, in deep and excruciating detail, about every single one of them. Often multiple times. This frustrates me because I like to make a decision quickly and execute. I don’t want to ponder for long periods of time and by this point I was SO ready for this damned office to be done. I couldn’t keep track of the options and couldn’t ponder how they might make me feel.
I’ll admit, after a while we were both frustrated and snarling at each other. Finally we moved some things around so I could sit in my desk chair and really see how much room I’d need for desks, etc. Then Mr. Maura proposed a plan that was not anything I’d really considered and we decided to try that one. I did swear that, if I turned out not to like it, I would only ask him to reshuffle furniture once more.
It’s actually really hard to explain to someone, especially someone highly visual, that your brain doesn’t operate the same way and you have to touch and experience things they just imagine in order for them to make sense to you. I cannot close my eyes and remember faces or picture something. I don’t even dream in pictures – I hear words as if someone is reading a story to me. When Mr. Maura wants to find something, he visualizes where he last saw it. When I want to find something, I try to remember when I last touched it or interacted with it. It’s actually a very different way of relating to the world. I’m very much a kinesthetic.
This also explains why I’m not much on comic books or graphic novels. I find them confusing to read and the pictures don’t really matter to me. They convey no emotion and I basically ignore them. The words are all tossed on the page and you’re supposed to somehow integrate the words and the pictures. SO not me.
The experience with the office is a good reminder, though, that when writing characters I also need to remember that everyone reacts to and interacts with their environment in at least a slightly different way.
I’ll crop and post the pictures in a day or two. Right now I think I’ve earned some dinner.